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Sock it too Me 2009!

« Screeching halt | Main | Decisions, Decisions! »

April 16, 2010


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Just catching up and I am absolutely crushed for you.

Many prayers and good thoughts are coming your way.


Ugh. Just wanted to let you know I'm thinking of you and wishing for good things to come from this one way or another.


Your analogy about the bags falling out of the closet is a good one. But this is a stumbling block, and only a stumbling block, not the end. It's tough and it sucks and I'm sorry. And you will get through it.


I'm heartbroken for you. I know you will find a way to get through this, but, damn, I wish you didn't have to go through this.

It is what it is

Well, it is a completely pragmatic decision in an otherwise emotionally complex situation.

It sucks but I also agree that you can't risk it. We had red flags with our donor, that I chose to ignore (or excuse) and our cycle was a dismal failure (and we were not going to do another donor cycle). I can kick myself all I want for ignoring the signs but that will never change the outcome.

Stick with your decision, find a way to pull yourself up to move forward, and go with the other (or another) donor.


I am sorry.

I did not expect to emerge fromwork and read this news.





Urgh that really really sucks! I know what you mean about being really attached to the donor! We were really attached to # 1, indifferent about # 2 and warm and eventually really happy about # 3. I hope that the closetful of bags doesn't bury you!
Fwiw i think you're doing the right thing - but it really sucks big time. I hope that you have some time and energy to regroup and re-energize and consider this other donor.
I'm so so sorry that you are going through this heartache.


Wow. I'm really pissed about this. I don't understand why they didn't ask her about her weight before it got to this point; it seems like a reasonable question. I get the part about the other donor resurfacing but emotionally this is tough. I just wish that the donor/cycle coordinator had thought of this. I am soo soo sorry about this. As someone who has been dicked around many, many times while trying to have a baby, I know just how much this sucks! It's good that you and hubby are protecting yourself with this. xoxox


I am thinking of you this weekend. I wish any of this were easy.


biting my tongue about BMI stuff, because no matter what you have to trust your instincts on this. I also agree with Eva in that the clinic really should have been on top of this change in the donor- so it just sucks for ya'll and I am sorry. Hope you guys have had a healing weekend. Hoping like crazy the donor-in-waiting begins to feel fated.

Lisa dg

You absolutely are making the right decision- it needs to be made as rationally as possible. After all, success is the most important thing.

If the donor you liked at your clinic is now available, made it is working out just as it should?

I'm holding the two of you in my heart that the road is smooth and easy from here on out...


Yes, right decision, as difficult as it all is. Because if you hadn't, and anything had happened, you'd be haunted by it.

Even though it sucks to be going through this now, it would be worse if you'd gone ahead and had a failed attempt-- you'd feel at least this shitty AND you'd be out the money on top of it all.

I wonder if ending up back with the donor you originally wanted is meaningful? Like, she was really yours all along?

As always, I am thinking of you guys and hoping your efforts come to fruition very soon.

jaded heart is heavy with this news. I was so behind you and ready to follow you through this cycle.

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