Sorry for the silence this week. I've been unusually busy, and then yesterday, my back went out, so this will be short so I can return to my little pod o'healing.
We talked to Dr Calm yesterday about the three donors we are considering:
Donor Three: made a lot of eggs, but has low FSH and low LH and so she requires a lot of stimming, and the only pregnancy to result from her three cycles ended in miscarriage. She seems like too much of a risk, and our resemblance is nil. Whew. Nice to have another off the list.
Donor Two: Makes a good amount of eggs, but has only done once cycle. The reason the fresh cycle likely didn't result in a pregnancy is the the recipient had a thin lining. Ok, she gets a pass on that one. However, the doctor said that one of the twins that resulted from the FET has a problem with his tongue, but there weren't any further details, so she was going to dig into that. She said it could be a short frenulum, or something worse, but there were no details. Furthermore, she doesn't look that much like me. I'll just be honest here, she has the wrong sort of eyes. I know, that is sort of vague and not all that useful, but she just looks wrong. However, she is still in the running.
Donor One: Did a cycle in 2002, back with the lab wasn't as good as it is today and they had a positive on the fresh cycle (twins) and a negative on the first FET, and a positive on the third (twins as well, eek!), and there are still two on ice, or not, but there were. If she is interested in doing the cycle, she'll be 32, which our doctor said wasn't a significant difference in terms of downs risk from a 25 year old, and she said that donor performance tends to be pretty consistent. At age 31 her FSH was 6.0 and her antral follicle count was 18, and her e2 was 44. Mostly, she looks right. Not like me, but the eyes are right. They have the right kind of clarity. But the big 'if' is will she perform as well as a 25 year old? Will her egg quality be as good as a 25 year olds? Our doctor seems to think so. She actually said of the three, this donor was her first choice. So, we're sitting with it. I've asked the donor coordinator to contact her and find out if she is still interested in doing cycles, and when she would be available,and then of course, they'd have to do the FSH and antral follicle count business again. And on a cosmic connection level, she shares a birthday with my best friend and my college mentor. It's so amazing how much we want to identify with our donors. Any little snippet feels like a gold mine.
Well, that is all the news I can bear to sit here and impart.